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Failure is terrifying. Failing will make you question who you are and what your direction is in life. We are conditioned to believe that we need to consistently be the best and always be striving for success. Therefore, when we fall even a little bit short of that, we feel like we might as well just give up.
So, what happens when everything crumbles and you fall to your rock bottom? Your failure is so grand that you can’t even imagine pulling yourself up from it?
My answer to those questions is, that you are now exactly where you need to be to get to where you truly want to be going.
Nothing in life can ever go exactly to your plan, if it does you’ll consider yourself lucky but, if it doesn’t I think you’re actually a lot luckier. And, the more you experience failure the luckier you get! You now have more opportunity to try new things and experiment different ways to reach your goals and get to where you want to be.
When I was 18 I experienced my first huge failure and at the time, I thought my life was ruined for good and I was destined for a future of nothingness. That of course didn’t happen, because failure is a funny thing, it ends up showing you opportunities you never even knew existed.
At 18, I failed my way out of my first year of university; I failed all of my first semester exams, all of my final exams and when it came to the final “get your head in the game, it’s crunch time”, I hit a triple whammy and failed all of my resit exams. Oh sh*t. What do I do now.
After two weeks of moping and crying and moaning about how it wasn’t me it was the course, I decided to take control. That summer, I knew a couple of friends from uni were spending their summers in France or Spain working as nannies so, intrigued I had a look online and came across a website called AuPairWorld.com. Within a week of speaking to a few different families I agreed to become the Au Pair for two little girls aged 7 and their family living in Madrid, Spain.
I booked my flight and told my parents I was moving to Spain at the end of August (3 weeks time) for a year. Shock doesn’t even cover it, they still thought I was going back to university.
Thankfully, they both came around to the idea pretty quickly once they realised I was doing what was best for me at the time. Then, just a few short weeks later they were standing waving me off at Edinburgh Airport. I felt like I was just heading off on holiday for a couple of weeks.
It wasn’t until I was on the plane that the realisation hit me. I had just left my family, my friends, my boyfriend (at the time) and the whole life I had known for 18 years behind me and I had no idea what lay ahead. I hadn’t even been to Spain before!! I had no clue if this family were even going to pick me up at the airport or if I’d be stranded in Madrid booking the next flight back to Edinburgh.
Of course, I am now living to tell the tale so it all worked out in the end. Fortunately, for all of you, this post isn’t about my year in Spain because I could go on about that forever. Instead, it’s about how great it is to fail. Fail university, fail your exams, fail a job interview… you get the idea.
When you fail at something you subconsciously make a promise to yourself to succeed in the future. Life will constantly throw you curveballs and at the time, you question what the point is but when you get out the other side you realise that it happened exactly as it meant to.
I was never meant to pass my first year of university in 2013, I hate to think where my life would be right now if I had. I wouldn’t have met any of my best friends, I wouldn’t have gained a second family, I probably would never have finished university. Failure brought me to where I am today.
I understand obviously, that I say this 7 years later after I’ve lived through, and am now safely out the other side of my big failure. And, I have failed many times since then. I failed a few exams when I eventually got back to uni, I failed at jobs and I’ve failed at relationships. When I was in the midst of them all I couldn’t see the way out but I guess what I am trying to say is that there is always a brighter side to failure. Failure can lead you down paths that you never knew were even there for you. It can be scary stepping out into the unknown but please don’t let it deter you when you fail at something.
To be cringe and use that famous quote, “everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear”. It’s true. When you are faced with failure it shakes your whole world, it is absolutely terrifying realising that you need to change direction and you now have no clue where you’re going. But I can assure you, failing is the best thing that will ever happen to you.
I love this post – so inspirational and positive
I’m so glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for your comment xx
Great post! This is so true and thank you for this!
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Excellent. A really interesting read. Failure can really serve as a huge motivation.
Thank you so much for your comment! it really did in my case, it is hard at the time of course to see it positively.
I love how you turned a negative thing into such a positive one, especially because it’s very hard to see the light when you feel like a failure! And thank you so much for sharing your story about travelling to Spain as an Au Pair! Gosh that is incredibly brave of you to do… I’ll be too chicken to do that haha!
Thank you so much for your comment Lizzie! Hahah to be honest, I think if I had the option to do it now I would be too worried. But I am glad I took the plunge at the time 🙂 xxx
This is such a brilliant post! You are so positive! 🙂
Failure can be so difficult to deal with, but you have certainly explained how it can actually be a learning curve and a motivator to move forward from there and actually create success from failure. You’ve shown how it doesn’t mean the end and that you can come out of the other side of it stronger and with a clearer or different path that you didn’t realise was there.
Thank you for sharing this! I love it.
Thank you so much for your lovely comment and for taking the time to read! I’m so glad you enjoyed it 🙂 xx
Failures is always a lesson. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for your comment Jenisha 🙂 x
I love this! So often we see failure as a negative experience. However, the road to real success is paved with failure and challenges. It’s your ability to learn, grow and evolve through those moments that will allow you to become who you need to be in order to reach your goals!
Thank you so much for your comment and I’m so glad you enjoyed it :). You’re absolutely right! It’s difficult at the time but very much worth it xx
I also failed out of my first university and it is definitely true that failure makes you determined to succeed at the next goal or attempt to complete something. If I hadn’t failed at many things, I would probably be a much more arrogant person. I’m glad I’ve learned from missteps and chosen paths that really meant more to me. I like how your post is simple and encouraging; thanks for being transparent about your struggle and how you turned it around for motivation.
Thank you so much for your lovely comment! You’re so right. It’s always good to reflect on where your failures have brought you. I’m glad you found your right path 🙂 Thank you for reading x
Such a positive outlook on failure, I’m definitely inspired by this post!
Thanks for sharing!
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Thank you so much for your comment Grace! I’m glad you enjoyed it.
Failure is proof that you are trying, is another fave quote of mine! We need to fail, to learn what works and what doesn’t, its impossible to go through life without them, but also, is failure even real? Failure is just when things didn’t turn out the way we wanted, but often, they turn out a better way instead! Great post!
Thank you so much for your lovely comment! And such an interesting perspective! I never thought of it like that, I guess you’re right. You can’t fail if you’re ultimately happy with how things end up. Thank you for sharing such a positive point 🙂
What a lovely post. I’m glad you found your way to exactly where you want to be.
Thank you so much for your lovely comment! So am I 🙂