For the past few years my birthday approaching has made me feel overly pensive about where I am in life. I know this is pretty normal but I feel like I take it too far, I’m a fairly over dramatic person as it is but when my birthday comes around this trait of mine goes into overdrive.
The reality of getting older hit me like a lightening bolt on the night of my 22nd birthday. I called my best friend Amy drunkenly sobbing that I had no clue what I was doing with my life, I didn’t know who I was and I was running out of time.
Cut to this year, days before turning 25 and I was soberly sobbing to my boyfriend that I have no clue what I am doing with my life, I don’t know who I am and I am rapidly running out of time.
Three years have gone by and I feel like I’m getting worse! No wiser to how best to deal with getting older.
I have googled, more times than I’d care to admit, “what is good about turning 25”, “what happens when you turn 25”, “at what age should I have things figured out”. It’s embarrassing, I know. But ever since my devastatingly drunken 22nd birthday meltdown I have had the overwhelming sense that my time is limited and I am living by the rhythm of an illusive timer.
The seconds keep dropping off and I’m not moving fast enough to justify the loss of time.
People say that being 25 is amazing, that it’s the age where everything you learned in your early twenties becomes cemented and forms the person you are and creates the foundation for the person you will be. I trust that is true. I know I have learnt a lot throughout my life and I have had truly formative experiences.
Maybe that is the point of being 25, using what you learned in your early twenties, taking the person you are now to create the person you will become when you turn 26, 27, 28…
I’m taking this year as my foundation year, the starting point to an adulthood filled with meaningful, positive and fulfilling moments!
In my next post I think I’ll go into a bit about what I’ve learned in my first 25 years and some things I’d like to achieve in the next year or so!
But before I go, has anyone else had their quarter-life crisis yet? And do you have any tips to feel better about getting older?
Jenny in Neverland
Oh girl I can relate so hard to this! These feelings didn’t bit me until I turned 25. I felt so weird about turning 25. I’m 27 now and those feelings haven’t changed, I just learned to live with them. I love what you said about not moving fast enough to justify the loss of time. That really hit me because that’s exactly how I feel. Especially when you see people of similar age to you who have achieved so much and you just feel like you’re standing still. Amazing post lovely, I’m sure it’ll resonate with a lot of people xxx
Lucy Jacovelli
Thank you so so much. I’m so glad you can resonate with it! It’s definitely a strange time of your life and I think overthinking it so early on in my twenties has made me dread it that much more. It is strangely comforting, however, that so many feel the same and maybe it’s just an omnipresent feeling during adulthood that we eventually learn to deal with! Thank you for reading and for your lovely comment xxx
Britt K
I definitely struggled turning 25 for the same reason – I felt like I should have this great understanding of life and where I should be, and here I was lacking any of that. Instead, I was just confused, trying to figure it all out. I’m 34 now and let me tell you, I still don’t have it all figured and neither do my friends! So, try not to be too hard on yourself. I agree that 25 is kinda like a turning point into adulthood, where you start to make decisions as to who you are going to be. Take that opportunity to find what makes you happy, that’s what I wish I had spent more time doing at that point! It wasn’t until 30 that I recognized that my career wasn’t working for me and made a change.
Lucy Jacovelli
Thank you so much for your comment! It’s very true, you feel like that once you’re officially older you’ll be blessed with this deep understanding and when it doesn’t come you’re just waiting, panicking you’re behind! I’m actually comforted by the fact it doesn’t really go away haha. It’s so good you made that career change! A step that most aren’t brave enough to do. Thank you so much for reading and for your lovely comment xxx
Hayley Pugs
I’m 29… And alot changed for me at 25. But it was the time when things got adultish… Sorting out savings, I was single at the time. It sure seems shit at times! But age is just a number it’s about the experiences and lessons you learn along the way.. feel fabulous being 25 🙌🙌🌺🌺🌻🌻😍
Lucy Jacovelli
Thank you so much for reading and for your sweet comment!! Such positivity and you’re right, I’m definitely learning to appreciate my experiences and make the most of where I am now 🙂 xxx
Ria's Haven
I had a great read!
You really don’t have to overthink anything, everything will definitely pan out right.
Feel free to check out some spiritual insight.👇
https://riashaven.wordpress.com/2020/05/06/getting-your-life-back/
Lucy Jacovelli
Thank you so much, Ria! I know, you’re definitely right. Oh, fabulous, I love anything spiritual. I will check this out xxx